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ex boyfriends and girlfriends. lets open a can of worms and tlk about it!
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Mittwoch, März 18, 2009 - 17:05
ex boyfriends and girlfriends. lets open a can of worms and tlk about it!
were you dumped or you left someone? how bad did it hurt you? what suffering did you go through? were you in love, just a crush, husband, wife, do you have a child together did he or she use you? yeah love stinks. wanna help oters? wanna let your sadness out? express it. my ex left me, yeah im just a teenager with raging hormones but sometimes you really feel something for someone. i did. i still dont know why he left? why do guys and girls leave? i hope this thread doesnt blow like others. keep it alive. wanna vent? let it out.
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No bother
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
thnx you all
Comfort and be there for him
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
Hmmmm....I'd love to help...but I have no clue...I don't know your friend...and I don't really understand guys in general when it comes to that....just be there for him.
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So what if you could see
The darker side of me
No one will ever change
This animal I have become
~Save me...I'm falling~
hmm well the girl was just messing with him and i know how much that hurts
hes gottaq get a little mad just a little like she was just stringing him along
all you can really do for him is be there for him .hes gotta realise by himself that well she was being a b**** who liked hearing that he loved her it was just to build her ego .tell him that 2
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
hey guys can you help me out?
It's like a friend of mine he really loves a girl and he thought that that girl loved him too because she told him like a hundred of times and now it turned out she doesn't really like him and he's broken because of it and I really don't know how to cheer him up because everything he told me it was like there was really something going on between them and i'm shocked about the fact it was all fake from her side so do you guys have any advice?
my ex (the one i love deeply) has a new gf. she used to be my friend, then she screwed me over for him. misery.......:'(
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if this is the last show we play, keep yourselves alive. -Gerard Way-My Chemical Romance-
Thanks (:
I told her she needs to tell him, or get someone else to tell him, but she wont. She believes the whole "guys must ask girls" thing. She's absolutely crazy about him though. I'll keep telling her though (: thanks.
I would say tell her she has to drop some info from time to time and when the moment is right tell him, so he's not overwelmed by the fact she likes him and untill that point she can see what his reaction is... it's like a very good friend of mine I like him a lot and he knows that by now but just giving some compliments and later saying I love you when you go offline, then if they can really talk it is possible to say things like I love you without really mean the fact you''re in love with him/her and if he says it back you probably close to the time you can say you really love that one and tell all your feelings but first start being good friends the rest is for later
Hey guys, can I ask for some advice please...?
It's technically has nothing to do with ex's.. but i didn't know where else to put it.
My friend likes this guy and she's liked him for a while. She doesn't think he likes her, but they talk on msn a lot. She keeps asking me what she should do, but I have no idea. I just don't want her to get hurt again, cos there was this one guy, and he really messed her up. She's my best friend, and i wanna help, but I don't know how. Any advice?
(haha, dont worry, its not one of those things where this is acctually about me, its honestly about my friend, since i have a boyfriend)
so you know that one guy i told you about how he sent pictures of himself to me and then he made me promise to send some back. well... i'm not sure if he just told people about it or actually showed them because about a few weeks ago during my PE class he goes up to this one guy and starts talking to him. then the guy turns around and points at me. then a second later the guy comes up to me and asks, "is it true that you sent him pictures?" and i'm all like, "how do you know about that?" and then he says, "basically everybody in the world knows about it." and you know what pisses me off the most is that while me and this guy are talking the guy i sent pictures to is smiling in this sick way as if he's enjoying this. so i flipped him off, but he didn't see it. and then later that day his new "girlfriend" is standing near me and i'm sitting with my friends wating to get picked up by my dad. the guy throws a rock at me so that i'll turn around and notice him flirting with his new "girlfriend." afer that happened i texted saying, "are seriously trying to make me laugh cuz wat ur doing is really lame." and then he answers back, "? wat?"so i said "wat do u mean wat? you flirting with that girl right in front of me." and then he says,"well i didn't see you." so then i say, "well what about PE?" then he says, "i don't know." so i stopped there.
i really think that he's just so pissed off that when i found out that he was with another girl, i acted as if i didn't care, which i really didn't. and i just bascally told him to f*** off, cuz he's not even worth it. so i just think that he's just trying to get back at me. also i thought it was stupid how he was trying to make me feel so gulity for not trying hard enough in this relationship and it's all like, you know what, i think you were the one in this one. i didn't even really care for him. i was just so stupid and desperate. he seems like that type of guy to have at least 10 girlfriends already since he amiited that he gets pictures from other girls as all the time, so i don't know what to do. so far there hasn't been any trouble with him, but i just don't know.
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I got some good news for you hhuuuhhhh?!
talked to my ex the other day for the first time in like 6 months. it was nice.
and i learned last night for the millionth time that guys are a**holes. well actually that one is my fault, i make stupid decisions. hmm
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music is love
Thanks =) *Hands out cookies*
It's something I probably just need to get over. In a way I see what you're saying....but, like you also kinda said, It's hard to let go. Part of me just wants to hate him for dragging me through hell....and part of me loves him and wants to be with him still.....my friends all think I'm messed up for dating him in the first place...mdr.
Something that makes it a bit harder.....I think I might kinda sorta really like this other guy......my ex hasn't actually met this guy...but he was alway a lil suspicious of him cuz he is like one of my best friends....so...ya.....now I'm having mixed up feelings....cuz now I feel guilty for liking another guy...but if bryce (that's my ex) doesn't want me anymore then I shouldn't care.....but yeah....it's all very confusing.
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So what if you could see
The darker side of me
No one will ever change
This animal I have become
~Save me...I'm falling~
aw na don't go away ..and you didn't sound stupid lol
..hmm, im not too sure what to suggest to help, apart from a cyber hug? 
haha ..even though i don't know you and alrite you probs think im a right freak now. ..sorry for creeping you out 
. ..all i can think of really is that he might want to like see other people and stuff..but he can still care about you..he might not be ready to let go..but is kinda..okay that doesnt make sense. ..hm i broke up with my ex a while back and ironicly i seen him today, and for some reason i felt like kinda down..as if i really really miss him. ..and still kinda get jealous if some other girl is flirting with him. ..but i don't like him anymore. ..i think love is just hard to explain, well alrite maybe too young for love..but whatever this feeling is, it's hard to let go...and its probs just natural that he maybe still misses you and gets annoyed when he thinks you could be with someother guy and not him..that make sense? ..but he needs to understand, imagine how you felt when he was doing that with the other girl ..sorry if thats not much help, but if anyone could help and build on that it would be good and even better help 
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
I recently went thru a bad breakup....my bf and I were together for nearly half a year...and people gave us crap about it...LOTS of crap...but we stayed together and ignored them....my friends warned me about him...but I 'knew he loved me' so I didn't listen to them.....I even didn't listen to a friend who had dated him before....then a whole bunch of crap happened...and I thot he was cheating on me...which he wasn't....but then he dumped me....he said it was because his dad made him because of grades....so then we weren't officially together...but we still acted like we were...it was basically the 2nd time we were together and weren't supposed to be....then he just stopped caring.....He spent a whole weekend just making out with a diff girl...and it hurts....bad.....now I don't consider us together....and neither does he....until he sees that another guy might be looking at me...then suddenly he claims me as 'his' again....it's ripping me apart and I hate it....but i still love him....wow...that's really long and I only told you guys like 2% of the story....ok...I probably sounded really stupid so I'm gonna go away now....
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So what if you could see
The darker side of me
No one will ever change
This animal I have become
~Save me...I'm falling~
the sweetest thing my ex said was that he wants to grow old with me, get married and stuff..one time we were up talking like until about 3 just talking about what we would do in the future. ..yeah.. he's had tons of other girlfriends since then, so i feel sorry for them if they have to go through the same crap!
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
usually guys think confidence is attractive.well thats what my ex told me. what was the most sweetest thing your exs said to you? my ex told me he thought about taking my hand in matrimony. yes he said that.....now hes ignorring me and idk why
note were not together anymore. obviously.
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if this is the last show we play, keep yourselves alive. -Gerard Way-My Chemical Romance-
Its took me years to build my confidence.
Never be afraid to be urself.
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xx
I want a hug ^ ^
thanks, that does actually help. =]
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I got some good news for you hhuuuhhhh?!
well put all of you. i agree w/ never too late. just try aim, text, or fb or somethin like that
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if you were dead or still alive i dont care i dont care and all the things you left behind i dont care i dont care
its all in the confidence
i dont know if you guys can tell but im kinda petic whèn i wana be
and that can hlp with chattin up girls and being relitivly funny hehe
rock and roll demon ,-Never-too-late- is rite as usual
talking to the person you like is always daunting txtn them or chatting online
is a great confidence builder. and people make mistakes all the time i know
plenty of girls that have had that happen them the guy didnt pass the photos on
mistakes are made i knw thats why im on crutches
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
well, i'll try to help, give you advice
..but if my advice it kinda crap then sorry lol
right, so basic idea.. you really like this guy but he has a girlfriend? ..and everytime you see him with her it crushes you? ..he has this other friend that you kinda like too, but are too nervous to talk to him. ..but you were feeling like as if you needed someone there so you accepted this other dudes offer..but didn't go down too well..but trust me you did the right thing by breaking up with him.
..don't let him force you into anything you don't want to do again, so it proves you can actuly think for yourself since you broke up with him.
okay, so you did something you regret..not something to be proud of but hey, we all do stupid things in our life and they cant be done..there's no point in going back on it cause you cant change the past and its already done. so forget about it and don't worry
yes! ..but then as the relationship went on he turned out to be a complete asswipe. ..so what im trying to say is, when you think something is perfect they always have something wrong too..it's never what you expect you know?. ..but if you do start going out with him or start talking to him thats good! just be aware that he might crush you if you get me..but hey most people do so yeah..anyways sorry if this was no help. ..but good luck 
As for the guys, you could try build up some courage to talk to him..the friend lol. ..or if you don't feel comfortable talking to him in person you could try msn or something to get you started so then its not like face to face..then when you feel more comfortable whenever you see him try talking to him, or smileling when you seen him in the street or the hall..go slowly then carry on from there until you feel ready.
..and for the dude that you liked first hand..well from my past i liked this guy for hmm i think it was about almost a year and he kept having diffrent girlfriends and it kept crushing me..but in the end he finnaly asked me out and i was like
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
well... i've been trying to get over this one guy, but i just can't. its like i'm telling my self that i hate him, but my heart still aches. today i almost felt crying because i saw my crush with his "girlfriend" and the thing is that my friend tried to hook us up but it never worked out, mainly because it's hard to talk to him and i was so nervous. and then his friend was really cute too and nice, but i can't talk to him because the other guy is there and it would be weird.
and then this other guy gave me his number and i went along with it even though i didn't really like him. i just wanted somebody specail to actaully care about me. so i did something really stupid, but i don't really want to get into details, cuz it's kind of personal. it as to do with pictures adn i'm worried that the guy might send them around. i don't know why i did it. i was just so stupid and not thinking. anyways we broke up cuz i'm like this nice, quiet, innocent girl. and the guy is this partier, who likes to get drunk and is already having sex, so... i didn't want to take any chances.
but i guess that somebody will be out there someday. any help ?
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I got some good news for you hhuuuhhhh?!
yes, i agree, they all have been frogs. lol.
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music is love
haha exactly
lol
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
haha daniel b!! nice phrase =D i love it. completly discribes relationships
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if you were dead or still alive i dont care i dont care and all the things you left behind i dont care i dont care
3gschick you gotta kiss a couple frogs before you get your prince
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
there will be someone out there don't worry..it just takes time..you have to go through a few ..to put it nicely; dicks until you find the right one
..and when you find the right one it will be amazing, someone you deserve and treats you right 
and haha yeah me and Daniel B will do our best to cheer people up
haha
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
Daniel B: yeah I kno. it seems that every guy likes to walk all over me and use me. I can't wait till I find one that doesn't do that, or lie. One that I can trust, and one that will return all of my love.
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music is love
Thanks -never-too-late-
trust me i knw women are confussing but thare lovely lol
tdgchic there are people who do not diserve trus that will walk all over you
bur ther are a few that do thare best to cheer every body else up
loike me or-never-too-late
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
AvengedRomance: pretty much. Well, I can trust my friends for the most part, they've been there for 5 years now, and they've never seriously let me down about anything. Just little things, but never as much as I've been let down and betrayed by a guy. From now on, I am not believing a single word that comes out of a guys mouth until he proves it. And even then..idk.
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music is love
tdg chick i agree too. you cant trust anyone.
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if this is the last show we play, keep yourselves alive. -Gerard Way-My Chemical Romance-
they could possibly like you Daniel B, but im not sure. girls are complicated. i am one so i would know!! haha
so today i figured out i pretty much cant trust anyone.
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music is love
haha im not sure then..might just be being good friends and looking out for you and stuff.
..but lol hm, you never know
and aww they might like you cause your like really close, or they just like you cause they think your a great guy, could be cause your nice. ..haha i don't know..i don't know you but you sound nice so. ..or there's loadsa of reasons they could like you, if they do like you 
haha
..and if your really close and you think that it wont ruin the relationship you could talk to them about it or something . ..i dnno, going to stop trying to give advice now haha its pretty crap so sorry if its just a load of bull.
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
i dont think that thay do fancey me
why would thay like ??
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
hmm, im not too sure what to suggest..maybe they are just looking out for you and being a good mate you know?..or yeah could be a possibilty that they like you too
..my best mates are mixtures of girls and boys so don't see why can't just be mates..but you never know they could like you too. ..sorry im gonna stop butting in lol gonna shup ..trying to suggest something but kinda just repeating myself so never mind 
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
its a posibility
its really confussing do thay like me ??
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
well maybe you should make some more close friends that dont put down ppl you like
wer all looking out for ya
im thinking a lot lately im have a pritty rough week
but i have to great mates both girls and every time iv gone out with someone
or told them a i fancey another girl thay put her down straight away
ones gay and the others going out with a mate of mine
i dont know what to make of it
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
yeap yeap. ..no matter how much you think you don't want anyone else; you want him. ..there will deffo be somebody else and im sure they will treat you much much better too
..but also, think of it this way..he's hurt you this badly this time..imagine how you would feel if he did it to you again ay..now that wont be fair on you at all and you'd feel even more crap. ..okay sorry if that kinda sounded mean in any way i didn't mean it to be lol but just saying to be careful cause you don't want to be hurt even more again 
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
my brother got a gf in 8th grade and they were together until the middle of there first year of college. they only broke up once in the middle for about a 6 month break. they were completly in love in mi opinion but, he ddnt deserve her. she was rele nice
hehe thanks -never-too-late
ok avenged romance amm it seems to be that you have been hurt really bad by the guy
but you seem to think that if you get back together everything will be ok
but if you think about if he caused you all that heartache is he worth it ?? like there has to be alot of faults with the guy too reading true all the comments you have posted he seems like a reall a**hole
and what i have read from you and judging by your manner in typing you diverse a lot better
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
all i see are purple and yelloe smiles hehe. usually they say just stay positive but its hard for me cause im smiling one second and when i see my ex at school all my past heartbreaks and emoions come back, i cant tell you how many times ive cried so hard over him. whats you guys opinion of on and off relationships? note please dont say anything that will make me sad or doubt my minset about my ex and me.
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if this is the last show we play, keep yourselves alive. -Gerard Way-My Chemical Romance-
Rants? men i always get into rants.
LOL
so how is everyone???
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I want a hug ^ ^
okay, woah i used too many smiley faces there
haha ..sorry habit lol
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
haha woo i feel proud
..im usualy quite slow at getting stuff so this is a step up haha yay 
and thanks
yeah i'll definitely be there for her no matter what and make sure she doesn't do anything stupid. 
always there for my friends, like they are for me 
lol
thanks for the advice
..and hmm, if you want to you could give it a go haha..seems like a pretty cool job tbh..from diffrent comments you've helped loadsa people and re-asured them, think you'd be pretty good haha.
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
you got it perfect when i go on a deep rant
i dont know if its understandable lol any way you got it so very well done
and the thing with your friend theirs nothing you really can do but be thare for her
abd stop her doing antin overly stupid like rebounding hard to a worse guy or
taken up drinking and that .i cant really say from personal experience on the year or two thing i never had a relation ship last longer than a week
any way -never-too-late you got it
im wondering could i be a psychologist lol
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man
yeah i get you lol sorta like you just wanna be with someone for the sake of it, when you shouldn't be with someone unless you really like them? ..(im hoping i understood lol)
& if you like go out with someone for like say a year or 2 then obviously thats great, but (dont want to be mean in anyway) at this age its maybe not as good cause you need to see the world from diffrent points of views, plus if you break up with that person..which might be likley it will hurt a ton more cause you've been with them for so long and you might have been through a lot of stuff with them if you get me.. and just yeah. ..my friend just broke up with her bf it would have been like 2 years in june..kinda weird since on this fourm and that happend lol. ..but aww i feel really bad i just wanna help but theres nothing you can really say. ..the longest i've been with someone is only like 6/7 ish months so i only know half how it feels..sorry im waffeling on now haha going to shup
..anyways in reply, yep thats true.
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- WaKє Uρ, ιM PoUndiNG oN tHe DooR. x
in some cases i know this to be true
people lust more than thay love
its also a factor that you have to be mature enough for a relationship
to last a long time at 14 15 16 a relationship that lasts years isnt too
good not in a mean way but it will set you up for a fall down the line
a relationship is a two way thing both sides have to give as much as thay take
I think that alot of people just like the notion of having a boyfriend or girlfriend
because the at our age every body wants a boyfriend or girlfriend we want but we are not sure why we do its like the breaking Benjamin song rain "is it you i want or just the notion of someone to wrap around so i can find my way around:"
what do you guys think of what i am saying does it make any sence
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dont know that i will but untill the time i find me a girl who will stay
and wont play games behind me il be what i am a solitary man