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Be Honest Please
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Thursday, January 26, 2012 - 01:55
Be Honest Please
Ok, I really like this guy named Danny. He's super awesome and has amazing blue eyes, curly frizzy blondish hair that is adorable! He loves video games and is a band kid *like me XD* and loves Sonic and I love his sense of humor and he's really laid back. I really want to tell him I like him but there's an issue. I am absolutely TERRIFIED of rejection. And today I was walking home with my friend Maddy and Danny was there, then this girl Justine walks over *she likes Danny too. Insert evil eye glare here* and I think they kissed after Maddy and I walked away. So when I was at Maddy's today we decided to write a note from a secret admirer and slip it into his backpack tomorrow at school. I'm afraid that if he finds out it's me he'll be totally disappointed and everything will be awkward and stuff... so yeah, tell me honestly, is it stupid and immature and childish for me to give him that note? Does it make me a weak, scaredy cat? *Which I know I am but still...* :/
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A waste of time and money. I agree and I guess that it might be because I haven't had a boyfriend either...but ya know? There isn't much you can do if you haven't. People just don't appreciate all of the nicer people..
Valentines day is just another day for society to put other people down. Thats how I see it XD
Skyla, valentines day does suck, it's not just you who thinks that
even though it didn't work out, you gave it a shot...that's awesome. it's a whole lot better than wondering about it
GL next time!
Thanks everyone
just gonna remind myself that life goes on and I'm not gonna dwell on the past. "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. But today is a gift. That is why it is called the present." - master ougwai *cant spell* from kung fu panda.
Ok, is it just me or is valentines day one of the worst holidays ever? * maybe its cuz I've never had a bf or anything but it just seems like a wasted holiday to me*
Me too. Proud of you for trying *insert electronic hug here*
Trust me, there are so many other people searching for a nice person like you
I hope you find someone who likes you that you like back,Skyla. You are such a nice person. *Hugs everyone* Everyone needs hugs sometimes...lol..
Awww! I'm sorry Skyla! I'm proud of you for trying though! That took a lot of courage! *hugs*
Sorry to hear that Skyla. That totally sucks.
sorry to hear that skyla.... give him space tomorrow and don't seem clingly or desprate, but still make sure he knows you still wanna be friends and all.
good luck!
Thanks. And yeah. I'm probably gonna see him tomorrow at a superbowl party we're going to but I'm gonna be friendly and everything and try to talk to him and stuff but if he acts weird I'll just leave him be. But thanks for your help
Sorry to hear that. Just one more thing: don't be surprised if it's a little awkward for a while. When he doesn't answer texts or calls, don't freak out and bombard him with more. Just give him his space and wait for him to approach you. These things just have a way of working themselves out.
he said no
oh well. we're still gonna be friends and everything so yeah......
GO SKYLA!
Thanks for the responses everyone
I'm gonna ask him out sometime this week.... if I don't chicken out haha.
Thanks for the responses everyone
I'm gonna ask him out sometime this week.... if I don't chicken out haha.
MISS YOU 2 SKYLA!!! XD
i agree with Todays Regret
I wouldn't go with the note thing, and I don't want to be a hypocrite by telling you to just tell him that you like him because I can't do that, but I can tell you that you should do whatever you think is the right thing to do in this situation.
Haha, Today's Regret has this entire forum under control.
Good luck!!!!
Amazing. We ALMOST have the same problem.
I know EXACTLY how you feel. Fizzy brownish-hair, musician (guitar, but he's completely tone deaf, and its adorable), great sense of humor, loves 3dg, and very chill. I don't get to see him that often and I don't really know what goes on whenever I'm not around, and I'm WAYY to scared to tell him that I like him.
It's a hard question to answer. And rejection is a scary thing. But, if you can, I would suggest you talk to him. A note is kind of childish, and it will probably end in an akward silence for both of you. And, if he did kiss that other girl, there's a chance that, even if he says no, he won't be an ass about it. He seems like he would be a nice kid. But, definitely ask if you can.
yup... todays regret nailed it, so i couldn't really say anything to add on
@ Todays Regret: nailed it.
I wish I had the courage to even do that... but I agree that a face to face confrontation is WAY better... As for Justine, BACK OFF!!!!! GO GET EM SKYLA!!!!!!!
get it together for 30 seconds and get it off ur chest. tell him how you feel... but also tell him that even if he doesn't want to be more than friends, you don't want to lose him as a buddy and you still would want him ur life... good luck girl, I know you got this!
I wish I had courage....I can't even bring myself to do that...my fake friends told me to do that,but I thought it was a bit too childish,and honestly,I am going for something special. You should try to approach him if you think he might like you(like in my situation).
Thanks this did help
OMG SMILEY I MISS U!!!!!!!!!!
i dont think so i am also afraid of rejection i think in a sense its kind of nice to know someone likes you. Also most of the time they keep wondering about who it is and in a twisted way he is thinking of you. I know it is hard to face rejection this community being the outcast of soceity we will get it ALOT! So its ok ppl may tlk about it today and no even remember it tommorrow just tell him u like maybe not in a crowd but maybe wen its just u and him in a hallway. =) I think if he doesnt like you and makes a ig deal over u liking him. then he shudnt be worth dating in the first place. ^_^ just 20 seconds of insane courage makes all the difference. JUST GO FOR IT!!!
Truthfully. Yes, it is stupid and immature and childish. Secret admirer notes are for kids with crushes in elementary school. If you are older than 13 years old, it's time to grow up and tell him face to face. I'm a guy, and if I ever got a secret admirer note and I found out who it was from, I would probably be weirded out. An honest and direct approach will work a thousand times better, even if it ends in rejection, because at least he'll know you're a mature person. Something along the lines of taking him aside or catching him when he's not busy (and really, who cares if people are around as long as they are not watching you guys) and just saying something like "Listen, I really like you, and I was wondering if you'd like to go out sometime" or something like that. Straightforward and honest. But don't pour your heart out. Keep it short, simple, but direct. If he says no, just tell him you understand and that you hope things won't be weird now (truthfully, things will be weird no matter what for a while, but if you keep it together and don't kick and scream like a child, it'll reiterate that maturity thing, and maybe he'll keep you in the back of his mind until the time is right when he can reciprocate those feelings for you). If he says yes, great. But you have to go into it expecting yes AND no. Not one or the other. It's weird, but you have to expect him to say no and be prepared to deal with it, but you also have to be prepared for him to say yes and be prepared to deal with it. Hopefully this helps!!